What Is It Like Being Married to the Same Beautiful Woman for 31 Years?
For the nearly or newly wed, you have no idea. For the couple married less than 15 years, neither do you have a clue.
What’s it like to be married to the same woman for 31 years?
First, there is no pretense. I know her. She knows me. We know each other. There is no deception, and no hiding our flaws or foibles. And that is a good thing. We are honest and forthright with each other. We are partners. We are a team, and by acknowledging our weaknesses we are much stronger.
Second, there is very little conflict. I say very little because she can be stubborn at times (pray for me, because I will pay for that one). Seriously, when you are married to the same woman for 31 years, you learn how to argue. And the best way to argue is to say, “Yes, dear. You are right, and I was wrong.” Trust me, I know.
Also, there is a lot of convenience. If you want to stay home on a Friday night, you stay home. If you want to go out, you go out. Your schedule is based on what you feel like doing, not what others think you should do. What is even better is controlling your schedule now that the kids are grown and gone.
I would add being married to the same woman for 31 years creates confidence. I know marriage is hard. I know we still have our battles to fight and our mountains to climb, but the longer we are husband and wife the stronger we have become as husband and wife. A three-decade marriage is a great accomplishment in today’s terms. And each year we add hereafter is just another point or place to glorify God.
Finally, there is a deep sense of satisfaction. We are satisfied in one another. We do not have unrealistic expectations we impose on one other. She is the way she is, and I like that about her. And I am the way I am, and I think she likes that about me.
I could write more, but I think you get the picture.
So, thank you, Vonda. You are the love of my life. You always have been. You always will be. Thank you for loving me so deeply.